Richard J. Chandler

Composer for Performing Musicians

Take Two+ Tuesday

Working with Anger in Your Romantic Relationship- How do you work with your or your romantic partner’s anger or your own?

By Richard J Chandler / August 5, 2022

Take Two+ TuesdayA Quote, a Thought + an Enriching Link Quote:“I’ve learned … that a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.” – Andy Rooney (1919- 2011) More Quotes by Andy Rooney here: Thought:Working with Anger in Your Romantic Relationship How do you work with your or your romantic partner’s anger or your own? […]

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Is it Fair to Obligate Listeners to Absorb Another’s Anger in Service to the Venting Person?

By Richard J Chandler / June 15, 2022

Take Two+ TuesdayA Quote, a Thought + an Enriching Link Quote: “We find our energies are actually cramped when we are overanxious to succeed.” Thought: Often you hear something along these lines: “Just vent and get it out when you’re mad.” And many people do just that, temporarily feeling better but leaving those around them […]

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Responding vs. Reacting

By Richard J Chandler / June 3, 2022

Take Two+ TuesdayA Quote, a Thought + an Enriching Link Quote: To conquer oneself is a greater victory than to conquer thousands in a battle.”         – The 14th Dali Lama    More Quotes by Lhamo Thundup, The 14th Dali Lama here Thought: Responding vs. Reacting I made a video of this communication tool […]

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Want More Relationship Happiness? Balance the Power.

By Richard J Chandler / May 19, 2022

Take Two+ TuesdayA Quote, a Thought + an Enriching Link Quote:“Guilt implanted at a tender age is not easy to destroy. A weed, it sprouts in unexpected places.” – Caryl Rivers      More Quotes by Caryl Rivers here Thought: Want More Relationship Happiness? Balance the Power. Is your primary relationship balanced as it relates to […]

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How Much is Too Much Alcohol?

By Richard J Chandler / May 4, 2022

Take Two+ TuesdayA Quote, a Thought + an Enriching Link Quote:“Nothing excellent can be done without leisure.”– Andre Gide  (1869-1951)  More Andre Gide quotes here on our website. Thought: How Much is Too Much Alcohol? As a therapist, I have pondered the alcohol question professionally and much earlier on in my personal life. Like many people, […]

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Relationships Communication: Go From Arguing to Connecting

By Richard J Chandler / April 19, 2022

Take Two+ TuesdayA Quote, a Thought + an Enriching Link Quote:“It is very easy to overestimate the importance of our own achievements in comparison with what we owe others.”  – Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Lutheran pastor, theologian, and anti-Nazi dissident who was killed by the Nazis for helping Jews escape to Switzerland  More quotes by Bonhoeffer here on our website: […]

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What is Encouragement? (Hint: It Isn’t Praise) 

By Richard J Chandler / March 30, 2022

Take Two+ TuesdayA Quote, a Thought + an Enriching Link Quote: “We cannot do everything at once, but we can do something at once.” – President Calvin Coolidge  More Coolidge quotes here on my website. Thought: Thought: What is Encouragement? (Hint: It Isn’t Praise)  Encouragement is the skill of intentionally observing the positive actions of others, […]

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Vertical vs. Horizontal Striving: What Drives Despots or Inspires Humanitarians

By Richard J Chandler / March 15, 2022

Take Two+ TuesdayA Quote, a Thought + an Enriching Link Thought: Vertical vs. Horizontal Striving: What Drives Despots or Inspires HumanitariansOriginating with the psychologist Alfred Adler and present-day Adlerians, including this writer, have expounded on ‘vertical versus horizontal striving’ to understand the actions of individuals. It helps to understand this continuum visually.  Let’s place Russia’s hostile, […]

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Primary and Secondary Concerns: Facing Life’s Challenges Directly & Creatively

By Richard J Chandler / March 8, 2022

Take Two+ TuesdayA Quote, a Thought + an Enriching Link Quote: “Let us endeavor so to live that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.” – Mark Twain   A one-paragraph bio and more Mark Twain quotes here on our website Thought: Primary and Secondary Concerns: Facing Life’s Challenges Directly & CreativelyOften, […]

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Intentionally Choosing Your Inputs & Outputs for Optimal Health

By Richard J Chandler / March 1, 2022

Take Two+ TuesdayA Quote, a Thought + an Enriching Link Quote: “We’re lost, but we’re making good time.” – Yogi Berra    More fun Yogi Berra quotes with a short bio here on my website Thought: Intentionally Choosing Your Inputs & Outputs for Optimal Health Inputs and outputs are valuable constructs to achieve better health in […]

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